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How I work

Anxiety, depression, and other experiences of disconnection from the self can be draining, frustrating, and painful. The solution becomes focused on alleviating the symptom only to have it return again and again. We search for a solution, yet the familiar uncomfortable feelings linger or similar experiences continue to happen. Oftentimes, that's when we take the courageous step and ask for help.

 

Our mind and body are organized towards health and healing. When something intolerable happens, our system shifts to try and protect us so we can survive and function as best we can. But over time, the body and mind's way of protecting us begins to cause problems: health issues, relationship issues, depression, anxiety, loneliness, low self esteem and self worth, feeling false, etc.

 

With truth, knowledge, and understanding, a person can begin to see their defenses as attempts to survive difficult circumstances. Through exploration, understanding and self compassion can begin to grow. This is the process of developing safety and trust. When a person can feel safe enough to relax their defenses and open, they can feel pain... and finally grieve. In vulnerability, the mind, body, heart, and spirit can begin to communicate with each other again or for the first time. This is the process of healing. 

With trauma and abuse, the perpetrator uses the person or child as an object to fulfill his or her needs. The child is treated like an object, or thing, rather than a person with feelings. This is how many abusers deny any wrongdoing and deny their actions having a negative impact on the child. This also freezes the child's developmental process, not allowing them to progress and grow into having a separate and independent self. Without a self, a person often feels empty, like something is missing, alone, insecure, or not real.

 

The process of therapy is connecting with painful past experiences and the way those experiences affected you then and affect you today. This is the way to greater freedom. The way through is to take the courageous step and discover how you defend against the pain and open to it, with support

 

My style of therapy is interactive, compassionate, as well as gently confrontative and directive. I will be your ally to help you reach your goals and to reconnect with past traumas and losses so they can be held, contained, and understood in a new way. My goal is to help you know yourself more fully.